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Think Like a Gardener, Work Like a Carpenter

Think Like a Gardener, Work Like a Carpenter

Dan Coyle is a renowned author and speaker on topics such as talent, skill-building, and team culture. In his book, The Little Book of Talent, Coyle introduces the concept of "Think Like a Gardener, Work Like a Carpenter.” This concept can be applied to many areas of life, including high school and college student life.

In high school, students often face multiple challenges, including academic pressure, social dynamics, and preparing for the future. Applying the "Think Like a Gardener, Work Like a Carpenter" concept can help students navigate these challenges.

Thinking like a gardener means nurturing the potential for growth and development. It involves taking care of the small details and focusing on the process rather than just the end result. Just like a gardener has to plant seeds, water them, and give them sunlight to grow, students must lay a foundation of good study habits, regularly attend to the learning process, and cultivate positive relationships with teachers, classmates, and themselves. This means that students must take time to understand their own learning styles, set achievable goals, and take small steps towards those goals. It also involves embracing failure as an opportunity to learn and grow.

7 Ways to Make the Most of 10th Grade Spring

7 Ways to Make the Most of 10th Grade Spring

As a 10th grader, you have some time before you need to start actively applying to colleges. However, the spring of your 10th grade year is a good time to start preparing for the college application process. Here are a few things you can do:

  1. Start exploring your options: Use this time to start exploring different colleges and universities that interest you. Consider factors such as location, size, academic programs, and extracurricular opportunities. There is no need visit tons of campuses, but start to get well versed in the lingo of research university, liberal arts college, general education requirements, Greek life etc., will help ease the learning curve later.

  2. Focus on your grades: Your grades are a crucial factor in the college admissions process, so it's important to focus on your studies and maintain good grades. It’s an important year to solidify study skills, you will likely have a very challenging year in 11th grade, so now is the time to sure up areas you find challenging, either in content or related to executive functioning (organization, time management, essay writing, etc.).

How to Deal With Imposter Syndrome, from a Phillips Academy Graduate

In the fall of 2015, I enrolled at Phillips Academy Andover, a boarding school just a few miles away from my home. I was enraptured by the school’s grandiosity; I would walk down the same pristine halls that George W. Bush, Olivia Wilde, and many others once did. Andover’s student population dwarfed my middle school’s (1,100 to 59), and its library alone contained more space than our entire school building. I grew up in a comparatively impoverished neighborhood, so it was life-changing for my family when I was accepted. 

By all accounts, I had made it. Yet, my freshman year was marked by average grades, unhealthy stress, and the overwhelming feeling that I did not deserve my place at the school. I skirted around conversations regarding my grades, for fear that I would be “exposed” in front of my friends. Years later, I put a name to my emotional turmoil— imposter syndrome, or feelings of inadequacy despite one’s successes. Students that experience this phenomenon often feel like their successes are based on luck, rather than their own hard work and competence. This phenomenon often takes place when someone starts at a new job, or school. If you routinely compare yourself to your classmates, question why you were accepted by the school, or feel less prepared than other students, you probably are experiencing it.

I will outline the strategies that helped me overcome imposter syndrome, because I know thousands of students across the globe grapple with the same issue. My first piece of advice is to talk through your experiences with a trusted friend or adult. It sounds cliché, but articulating your feelings allows you to readily identify the problem, which is the first step in finding a resolution. A 2007 UCLA study revealed that verbalizing your thoughts lessens the intensity of anger, grief, and pain. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to an adult or friend, journaling can be just as effective. I used my school’s counseling office, wherein a counselor told me imposter syndrome was the most common concern of students, especially during the college application process. This helped me realize that my thoughts were “normal,” and that I had the agency to determine how they would affect me. 

My second piece of advice is to recognize and disrupt thought patterns that exacerbate feelings of inadequacy. For example, I used to look back at my first-year grades with regret and fixate on my shortcomings. I would think, “If only I could have worked harder, then I would not be in this situation right now.” Instead of accepting the past and using it as a lesson, I wallowed in regret and self-pity. Imposter syndrome operates as a positive feedback loop; you have initial self-doubt, internalize these thoughts, which produces even more self-doubt. But, mindfulness, or the recognition of one’s thoughts, can shatter the cycle. I would consciously ask, “Do these thoughts help or hinder me?” If the latter, then I would shift my attention to a different subject or task. Eventually these pernicious thoughts would become increasingly infrequent. 

Finally, I recommend adopting a healthier mindset towards grades. To put it simply, many students perceive grades as an evaluation of their character. When my first report card displayed primarily B’s and C’s, I felt unintelligent and idle among ostensibly hyper-conscientious aficionados. The truth is, I was as capable and hard-working as everyone else. However, I needed to develop efficient habits in order to improve as a student. Once I started perceiving grades as a trajectory of my growth instead of a reflection of my intelligence, my bout with imposter syndrome dissipated and my grades markedly improved. Imposter syndrome makes you feel like you’re unintelligent, unchangeable, and undeserving. Once you realize that you are capable of change, you become in control of your emotions and success. 

What Does Authentic and Impactful Service Look Like For High School Students?

Volunteering Won’t Get You Into College & Is Not Required to Apply To College

Some students come to us with the mythical concept that they ‘must get involved’ or do ‘community service’ before they apply to college. This is not a prerequisite, and in fact colleges are savvy to the fact that high schools may have volunteer hour graduation requirements. I was recently reviewing the Common App with a student, and one college directly asked if they had done any volunteering that was not a school requirement.

Take your time choosing your cause

What is it that you are truly very passionate about? Do not rush into the first thing that comes to mind or something that sounds good to you on a whim. If you are going to dedicate yourself, truly, it may be something you are going to spend a lot of time on. So you don’t want to become disenchanted (or bored) midway through. You’ll need passion, drive, and commitment to work through the tough times when things don’t seem to be going as planned.

If you like…animals: Contact your local Humane Society or animal shelter. They are almost always looking for cat or dog companions and people to help with daily operations. Try contacting an aquarium or zoo and see if they could use a volunteer assistant.

If you like…working with children: There are many organizations that work with children including day care, family shelters, emergency food pantries, counseling services and hotlines. You could volunteer your time at your local Boys and Girls Club or become an after-school tutor or mentor.

If you like…arts and culture: Museums and cultural organizations are constantly looking for volunteers. Your local newspaper or city website probably has a calendar of events which might include opportunities like this. Search for events that have an art or cultural component (such as a festival) and contact them to see if you can help out in any way. Do you have more than one thing you love, and can’t make up your mind? Combine them! For example, if you love kids and are also artistic, visit your local children's hospital and offer to lead art activities for young patients. If you love animals and like to be outdoors, call your local animal shelter and inquire about becoming a dog walker.

Grow naturally, don’t rush it

You should be enthusiastic about your cause! However, this does not mean you need to try to “save the world” in one go. Great organizations start small and grow slowly to serve more and more people (or animals or communities, etc.) over time. Staying within your means is incredibly important; it does no good to anyone if you become overextended and need to shut down operations.

Don’t be a perfectionist

Everyone should strive to do their best. However, doing your best does not mean doing everything perfectly. It may not be very hard for you to get a 100% on a test in school, but the real world is quite a bit different. Things rarely work out perfectly, and it often takes a great deal of flexibility, compromise, persistence and patience to get things done. The ability to laugh at situations (or yourself) when things do not go your way will help a great deal as well. Skeptics – No matter what you do in life, there will always be people who doubt your abilities, your motivations and your dedication. This is just an unpleasant fact of life. Try not to let these people get you down. It is difficult sometimes to stay focused in the face of doubters, but over time as you become